Living StarCozi: Navigating life away from the noise
photo credit: Mohamed Nohassi
New year, same me
At the start of each new calendar year, our social feeds are saturated with ‘new year, new me’ content. By February, most of us have forgotten any New Year’s resolutions or worse, begun feeling guilty that we’ve somehow failed. While we can all agree we should strive to continuously grow, the way we are influenced to navigate that journey is deeply misguided.
2023 - 2025
In 2023 I began applying StarCozi principals to my everyday and in 2025 I felt ready to launch it here. I’m now in a place and space where I can more meaningfully work on myself and return to who I truly am but with the added value of lived experiences and wisdom. I can look up at the stars at night and finally dream, breath, recalibrate, no longer live in fear, and most importantly - now have something to give back.
Becoming StarCozi
On the outside, it’s about style, beauty, and home. On the inside, it’s about identity, purpose, and wellness. And, in between, it’s about moments, thoughts, and pace. StarCozi is a safe place to explore and celebrate your uniqueness because you are enough.
StarCozi Principals
Life is not a problem to be solved
The voice in your head is not your identity
Fear & anxiety are created by digesting continuous streams of data, information, news, and comparison to others
Your historical you is meant to be disrupted
You are the star of your own movie where you write, produce each scene & you can change the script anytime you want
You can curate your life
Balance is achieved by slow, deep living & doing while taking care of the things you have little control over
Shine from the inside out
Use your gifts to give back
If you don’t have a plan, outside forces have a way of making one for you
When you need to plan, plan your escape
You are enough & being is progress
Let go of trying to fit in
Reclaim your identity by slowing down - it’s not about pace
The world’s need for speed disrupts your precious social capital - learn from creating new patterns
The construct (myth) that there’s a constant need to produce results & perform has a way of manifesting as fear - knowingly or not
Speed isn’t always better, risk taking is overrated, practice self-leadership & find YOUR pace
Occupy your experienced space with confidence - after all, you’ve worked hard to get here
You have unfinished business that only you know about - tap into that
Age does matter, become clear & comfortable with you you’ve become
The universe will never give you peace in something you were never meant to accept
Choose to disappoint others over yourself
Your parent’s dysfunction is a gift
You knew in high school who you were, apply that to the wisdom you now have
Your first anything will be bad but you can’t make the masterpiece without making the first
Downgrade, disappear, disassociate for the lifestyle you want
Living is not a to do list
You are not lost, you are here and have known where you need to be
You can’t sleep walk into your destiny, pay attention with silence
If you fixed all of your mistakes, you’d erase yourself, embrace this wisdom
Launch yourself at life, run toward your confidence because you’ve already gone through so much and survived
The things you want to say at work but know you can’t are the very things that you should cultivate in your personal time to escape
When your identity is replaced by a salary, corporate culture & completing other’s tasks, your ability to do what you know you should is slowly erased
Young children know what they want to do, don’t replace your dreams with a salary
The universe will put you in the same place over & over again until you learn to think & react differently
Perhaps you don’t need to become anything, what if it’s about unbecoming everything that’s not really you
Less force - more flow - but don’t go with the flow
Direction is more important than speed
If you really care about your dream, why would you spend all day building someone else’s
You become unique the moment you stop trying to be
Embrace the outside, reclaim the inside, and live in between
Embrace your comfort zone
Beauty, art, aesthetic are more precious & valuable than any corporate mission
Solitude is not isolation
The media and all the world’s systems of religious tradition, finance, education & social constructs - it’s all noise - the answers to true meaning & purpose lie within
You are still here & are not irrelevant or invisible
The space where you spend the most time should be beautiful & cozi
Remove the outside influxes, exist in your comfort zone
Dispel the pervasive self help narrative of the need to take risks - just be
“It is fruitless to wish you had started years ago. In the future you will wish you had started today.”
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